Always Aditya

So, how is it to find a girl of your interest and go after her with all your weapons in your kit ready to launch each one of them at the correct time and correct place? You might be thinking what are these weapons as though you are going on a war. Going for a girl’s heart in no less than a war dudes. Those enchanting eyes, charming faces, slender bodies, flowing hair, glowing skin can make any male in this universe feel weak in his knees. If you haven’t experienced it then either you are too young to understand all this or you are not part of this world. Better go and find your place. I always liked the fairer sex but never got into any relation with any one and believe me I am enjoying my life like heaven. Ask those bunch of boys who hang out together and they will tell you that at any given point of time they would prefer skiing, trekking and sports to a girl or sex.

Basically here are the few things you will be the privileged human being to enjoy if you are a single:

You need not have to assure her of her beauty. In short you need not say some one is beautiful even though they are horrible looking.
You need not have to think twice before inviting your friends’ over for a cricket match and enjoy the whole night with drinks and other stuff.
You will have no one to nag, as you are free by your will to pass out anywhere. Be it on couch, table or your balcony.
You need not worry that you are putting on weight.
You need not have to bear all those girlie talk and those chubby names you will have to carry like cutie pie etc.
You don’t have to watch Oprah or the boring romantic movies.
You need not have to worry whether the girl will call you on your phone again or not.
You can flirt as much as you can with other girls.
You need not have to pay for her dinner anymore.
You don’t have to deal with anyone’s grumpy, moody personalities.

I admit few girls smote me but I have never been in a relationship at all. I was quite proud to be single with no hassles, which are so commonly, directed from the other half of the relationship. The advantage you have if you are single is that you need not worry about your girlfriend discovering you with another girlfriend. You need not have to find various reasons to break your relationship and more importantly you have your own damn f*****g business to look for and need not feel for the problems of your girl friend. Imagine what a bliss your life would be. Mine is.

All women in this world love men who are chivalrous. Every woman wants to get importance from her partner. But never over do the chivalrous act as it would do you no good. It would be like an old man teaching a young lady the importance of being steady in life. You can say chivalry is a decent word given for slavery towards women. Seriously after watching most of my friends who are in a relationship, I think I have chosen a better path compared to them. Being a member of the boy fraternity, I feel bad for the boys who take the pains just to impress a girl. It’s like girls playing with the innocent liking of boys towards them and after toiling hard when they finally say yes, they take away the joy even before it is experienced by putting down some ground rules about what to do and what not to. Give me a break!

Getting girls may not be that difficult a thing as it seems but I would like to say that there are girls who are very difficult to get all because they are girls. There are some girls who are difficult even for James Bond to get a hand on. 007ian style may not work for Bond himself every time. So guys, no need to worry. It’s not like it is the end of the world.

It’s a joy in going after a girl trying to impress her but the enjoyment stops the moment she finds you interesting. After some time you may not be that interesting to her and mind you this part of your relationship is the toughest. You need to find all the composure and do all you can to make her feel that you are interesting enough to be considered. Take my word, half of the life’s effort is directed towards impressing the girls and if even half of that was directed towards the other interests like career then it would have been another Gates in making. Not that Gates would have never dated for this reason.

Sex and relationship does have some affinity. Sex need not be the criteria to be in a relationship. For that being in a relationship is not necessary. Some one like Joey in the sitcom ‘Friends’ might explain it better. Did you ever see him struggle like his friends on how to break up or find a girl or a boy to go out? Sex! Oh! Ok. Back to senses. I am not talking about sleeping with hookers. They are not in the question at all.

I don’t know about the rest of the world but I saw quite a handful of people in relationship feeling bad because their other half are not good at their careers, health or for that matter at public etiquette. Once you are attached to someone you tend to wish every thing good for him or her and always want him or her to be successful in his or her life. Fair enough. I never got into any attachments, as I don’t have time for myself. Why cry, feel the grief or dejection for the failure of others when I don’t even do that for me.

Ask any one in a relationship and they would vouch for the fact that they have experienced more pain than the lose of World Cup for India. Guys guys guys! You won’t have a life of yours. Her problems will be yours and your problem will always be yours. You have to be answerable to them. You have to live in fear that no one tells any new development in your life to your girl friend before you. If that happens, hell breaks lose. You think of going somewhere but end upon going to the place, which she likes.

May be wanting to be single and not get into all those relations in me is stronger than the thought of getting loved. No wonder I could not find time and interest to go to those girls I liked and say to them that how much I love them. Is it a right decision? It looks so as of this moment. But there is all probability that I may repent it in future. Sigh! But who cares. Live for this moment buddy. Live life your way!

Being single is far better than being in an unhealthy relationship. I will always endorse the fact that being single is one of the best things I have done in my life until now till I find my girl.